Friday, April 17, 2009

Anguished mom knocks on PM's door for answers

Source: Malaysiakini

Anguished mom knocks on PM's door for answers
S Pathmawathy | Apr 17, 09 2:09pm


Her three young children were forcefully converted to Islam by her estranged husband. And M Indira Ghandi is taking her plight straight to the doorstep of Sri Perdana.
MCPX

Calling on newly minted Prime Minister Najib Abdul Razak to explain the matter, the 35-year-old kindergarten teacher said: "He talks about an united Malaysia. But what does this mean when only the Muslims have rights."

"I am not anti-Islam and I am not saying that they (Muslims) are doing wrong things but why do non-Muslims have to suffer like this?" she asked as tears welled up in her eyes.

Indira's marriage is now is a limbo as her husband K Patmanathan, 40, had converted without her knowledge on March 11.

She claimed that her husband, who has since assumed the name Mohd Ridzuan Abdullah, had also converted their children, aged one to 12, on April 12 without their presence and using only their birth certificates.

"He took my baby (their youngest child) from me and ran away... I have not seen her ever since and I don't know how she's doing," lamented Indira.

As for her marriage, the teacher, who also claimed to have been physically abused, said the couple were married for 16 years and had been facing problems for a long time. "It started so many years back that I can no longer keep track of when it started."

"Recently he asked for a divorce and I thought to myself that since that was what he wanted I consented but he did not want to start the process and demanded that I do so.

"So I went to a marriage tribunal and filed for counselling in Ipoh but he never attended any of the counselling sessions," she said.

Indira claimed that after one particular explosive argument, which also involved her mother and sisters, her husband had fled with their youngest daughter Prasana Diksa.

"When we went to the police station and lodged a report, no immediate action was taken by the police although my baby was still very young and needed to be breast-fed," she said.

Since that incident, Indira has filed six police reports, with one alleging that she feared for her life because her husband had threatened her.

Indira said the police managed to locate her husband later but only to discover that he had converted the children.

'I don't know what to do'

The couple's two other children Tevi Darsiny, 12 and Karan Dinesh, 11 are currently living with Indira, who has taken refuge with a relative fearing that Islamic officials would take the kids away.

"I was neither told nor asked about it (the conversion)... I don't know what to do," she lamented.

According to Indira, her husband had called her last Wednesday and promised to return her youngest child.

"He asked me to come to the Islamic Department (Jais) in Ipoh and take my baby because he could not care for her but he didn't show up.

"Instead there was a man waiting there to serve me papers from the Syariah Court granting custody of my other children to him," she said.

However, she refused to accept the papers as she believed that Syariah laws had no jurisdiction over her.

As for her husband's conversion, Indira said he had spoken about his interest in Islam but she claimed this was related to monetary gains.

"I have no idea what his intentions are... but he mentioned once before that we will get RM5,000 each if we 'nikah' (marry according to Islamic rights) and money would also be given on a monthly basis to each of our children for education purposes.

"Over the past couple of days he keeps calling me and asks me to convert to Islam. He tells me that I should convert first and then we, as in the whole family, can opt out later back into Hinduism," she said, adding that she wanted to remain a Hindu.

'I love my wife very much'

Contacted later, her husband dismissed Indira's allegations as absurd, saying he converted because he was passionate about Islam which he had discovered during his business trips.

Denying that he had physically abused her, Mohd Ridzuan said: "I don't want to say anything but I love my wife very much... right now I only want her back."

Asked why he had converted the children without informing his wife, he replied: "You see all the children must follow the father's religion no matter whether he is a Hindu, Christian or Muslim."

"This is not a political issues, this is my family matter and I don't want to shame my wife," said the businessman who has filed for custody of the children with the Syariah Court.

Meanwhile, Indira has sought the help of several legal adviders, non-Muslim organisations and the public.

"This is not only my case, many people are suffering because of this. We are filing for the custody of my children because they don't want to go to their father, and they (the other party) are totally rejecting this.

"But the question is even if I can get back my children, will they be Hindu again? Why does it only take a day to convert my children but it is so difficult to return to their old religion?" she asked.

"Don't I have say in it, when I was the one who carried them for nine months... aren't they my children too? So what is my right and my children's rights?

"The government say this is a country where it is free to practice your own religion but what is the right of a non-Muslim in this situation?" she added.

Sunday, March 29, 2009

Why I Love Australia

Just got back from a car boot sale and I'm high on second-hands!

The most expensive item here is the brown leather shoes (AUD5) and the Sachi clutch (second column) AUD4. The red pair was AUD3 while the other clutch was AUD2. The denim skirt, sports jacket, peach halter and fisherman trousers were all ....jeng jeng jeng... 50cents each. Everything else was AUD2.

All in mint condition.

I swear I could furnish my house with the stuff at the sale...but yeah, no house yet :( so I'll furnish myself.



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Garage sales and swap meets and car boot sales...why buy new when the old functions just as well if not better?

And if you're wondering, I buy second hand stuff only for myself and immediate family, not as gifts to others. Though I wish more people are able to see the beauty/practicality in old goods.

Thursday, February 19, 2009

Looking back and not enjoying it


Why is it that even after everything seems like it has fallen in place and you have moved on, the past still manages to consume you? Does it mean you haven't really moved on? Is it possible to achieve milestones now but still be affected by previous betrayals? To realise that what happened is not something you can 'look back and laugh about' makes you wonder about the legitimacy of using that line to pull you back ashore. Will that day really come? You can't talk about it because it has been years since the dark cloud passed and people expect you to be over it. "Look how far you've come," they say and then go on to talk about Jason's new car, leaving you guilty and wondering if you are indeed exaggerating the issue, or if you are made of something else.

Monday, February 16, 2009

Guess there's a first time to everthing

I know it looks like this is turning into a food blog, but right now my life is so uneventful that I'm spending my waking hours in the kitchen or at the market, hence the high volume of food entries :)

Anyway, I never knew making thosais involved so much of effort, time and patience until I attempted it from scratch (no packet mixes!).The first few were so fucking frustrating coz they came out looking like cooked vomit, I kid you not. I never thought making sophisticated circles on the girdle would be so hard! However, once the girdle started smoking, I noticed that it was a lot easier to spread the batter (which stinks by the way). The tomato chutney that went with it was just wicked, if I may so. definitely bookmark-worthy!

See the lubangs, heheh...




With the Internet, everyone can cook, LOL!

Sunday, February 15, 2009

I'm still not a sucker.

I'm not a sucker for Valentine's Day, but I decided to bake a cake. Well, it was intended for my loved ones (blogger friends included :)), but unfortunately they/you guys are all so far away.

I swear this is the most delicious choc cake I've ever tasted (I'm not angkating bakul, it's the truth!) but like everything else, it's yummier shared. It's been a day and the cake is still sitting there on the counter pleading to be devoured. I actually feel quite sorry for it.




So yeah.

Happy Valentine's Day!
xoxoxo

Wednesday, February 04, 2009

You suck!

I have to keep reminding myself that I should not get worked up over Malaysian politics anymore since I'm no longer in the country and do not intend to return for good. But.

Right now, I don't think Malaysia deserves any more than the good food it has. That's about it. Malaysia, truly Asia my arse. If Asia is a symbol of oppression and mortal divinity, then maybe. Let me get back to you on whether I'm wanna weep for you or laugh at you.

Most of you fucking politicians do not revere a higher being and do not have a conscience.
How is that? How can someone not have a conscience? I can't fucking shut mine up but you can just tune yours out?

I haven't found a suitable adjective to describe Najib. Think I might need to create one in his honour. You fucking power crazy politicians should just fucking die! Now will be good.

Thursday, January 29, 2009

Wallow not, just DIY!

Thank God for Asian grocer stores...


Clockwise from top left:
Ikan Bilis Sambal, Kung Pou Chicken, Apple Pie, Butter Cake, Stir Fry Cabbage